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How to Avoid Wedding Disasters

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Continuing in the April is National Wedding month, I thought I’d do another posts on weddings.

If you’re like me, you’re saying, “What? I thought June was the month for weddings. Why isn’t it National Wedding Month?”

Beats me. I just know that February, according to some calendars, and April, according to others are listed a National Wedding month. But hey, who doesn’t love a wedding? Especially if you’re a romance writer.

Given the month-long theme, I thought it would be fun to share some information I came across while researching weddings for my sweet, romantic comedy, A Groom for Mama. The book is filled with disastrous dates and a mother pushing her daughter toward marriage. So, in that vein, we’re going to explore some bad-luck wedding superstitions that brides should take great care to heed.

I’m sure most of you have heard of these superstitions, but do you know where they originated and why brides follow them today? Well, I’m here to answer some of those questions and give you a peek at A Groom for Mama.

  • Why the groom doesn’t see the bride before the wedding:

Even today, when couples live together before marriage, most adhere to this custom. My best friend was stitching her future daughter-in-law’s bridal veil, and her fiancée walked into the room as the bride-to-be placed the veil on her head. Immediately, he put his hands over his eyes and turned away. He knew to see the bride in her dress before she walks down the aisle is considered bad luck. He didn’t know why, but he knew he shouldn’t. This superstition dates back to the days of arranged marriages where brides and grooms often had never met one another. Families worried that if the groom caught a glimpse of the bride and didn’t like what he saw, he’d back out of the deal.

  • Something old, something new, something borrowed something blue, and a sixpence in your shoe:

I’m sure every one of the ladies reading this post adhered to this saying. It’s the most widely known of all wedding superstitions. But do you know why? The “something old” represents the couple’s desire to hold onto deep-rooted memories; “something new” symbolizes the new union of marriage; “something borrowed” represents a token of love from a friend or family member, preferably from a married woman who has had a happy marriage—so the bride’s marital life will also be happy; and “something blue” represents fertility. As for the sixpence in her shoe, that’s for good fortune.

  • Why the bride (and groom) cut the first slice of cake:

The bride cuts the first slice so the couple won’t be childless. Today’s tradition of the husband assisting by laying his hand over hers while cutting signifies that the couple will share all their possessions.

  • Why the bride and groom feed each other a bite of cake:

This custom signifies the bride symbolically offering herself up to her husband.

  • Why everyone at the wedding should eat a bite of cake:

To refuse to partake of the wedding cake is unlucky for the bride and groom and for the person who doesn’t eat cake. So take a bite, even if you’re on a diet.

  • Why the bride and groom keep a portion of the cake: 

Traditionally a portion of the cake, usually the top tier, is saved by the bridal couple, originally to ensure the groom’s faithfulness. In earlier times, when a couple’s first child was normally born within the first year of marriage, the cake was eaten at the baby’s christening. In modern times, the tradition of eating the cake falls at the couple’s first anniversary. Why? Because superstition says that good luck and prosperity occur when the couple eats a piece of the cake a year later, and it’s also a great way to remember that fabulous occasion that sealed your love.

Did you have any other traditions you adhered to at your wedding?


For a peek at A Groom for Mama hop on over to Amazon and check out Catherine’s award-winning romantic comedy, with a touch of drama. It’s a fun read that ends with a happily ever after story.

A Groom for Mama

By Catherine Castle

Beverly Walters is dying, and before she goes she has one wish—to find a groom for her daughter. To get the deed done, Mama enlists the dating service of Jack Somerset, Allison’s former boyfriend.

The last thing corporate-climbing Allison wants is a husband. Furious with Mama’s meddling, and a bit more interested in Jack than she wants to admit, Allison agrees to the scheme as long as Mama promises to search for a cure for her terminal illness.

A cross-country trip from Nevada to Ohio ensues, with a string of disastrous dates along the way, as the trio hunts for treatment and A Groom for Mama.

About the Author

Multi-award-winning author Catherine Castle has been writing all her life. Before beginning her career as a romance writer she worked part-time as a freelance writer. She has over 600 articles and photographs to her credit, under her real name, in the Christian and secular market. Besides writing, Catherine loves traveling with her husband, singing, and attending theatre. In the winter she loves to quilt and has a lot of UFOs (unfinished objects) in her sewing case. In the summer her favorite place to be is in her garden. She’s passionate about gardening and even won a “Best Hillside Garden” award from the local gardening club.

Her debut inspiration romantic suspense, The Nun and the Narc, from Soul Mate Publishing was an ACFW Genesis Finalist, a 2014 EPIC finalist, and the winner of the 2014 Beverly Hills Book Award and the 2014 RONE Award. Her most recent release, A Groom for Mama, a 2018 Raven Award winner, is a sweet romantic comedy from Soul Mate Publishing. Both books are available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. Follow her on Twitter @AuthorCCastle, FB or her blog.